Here’s one truth about being three (three fingers, words enunciated very clearly): it’s more complicated than being two.


You want to be a big gu-url. You want to be a baby (before we knew such a teeny-tiny guy as Declan, baby Millie). You pinch (hit, bite) sometimes. You are not a mean girl yet you do not always act nicely.

You have all kinds of ideas about what you want to do and when you want to do those things (now) and how (your way).

Life doesn’t always go the way you hoped.


When you do hurt someone, you sometimes feel pretty badly (not always). Pretty often, though, you do feel badly.

Sarah Werthan Buttenwieser

Author: Sarah Werthan Buttenwieser

Sarah Werthan Buttenwieser's work has appeared on the New York Times, Salon, and the Manifest Station amongst other places. Find her on Twitter @standshadows

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